So Solo I’ve been thinking about lately and wanted to hear others thoughts.
It really is driven by personality. Some people, like me, just enjoy doing things alone. Then there are those who find it difficult or too much of a hassle to coordinate schedules with others, so it becomes a matter of going solo or staying at home.
One of the worst things that can happen to me is my wife wanting to go to a party — I truly dislike social gatherings. Before I retired, a good portion of my job was developing business solutions for clients. I would always refuse to work with a team of people, and I always insisted on developing business products independently — that’s my personality. Now that I am retired I rarely use more than 20 minutes a month on my cell phone and I cancelled our landline. My wife usually uses 2,000 – 3,000 minutes a month on her cell phone, which shows how different we are. She likes being with lots of other people. I don’t.
I view group hiking as potentially dangerous because group decisions are often required, and “group think” can result in less than optimal solutions, so pick your hiking partners carefully. Before I joined BPL, I had been backpacking for 40+ years and only did 4 or 5 hikes with other people over all those years, with the exception of a few trips with my kids. Since I joined BPL in 2008 I have done 6 or 7 trips with BPL members and I also did a couple trips with a friend during this time. All have been good trips as I have picked good people to hike with. With two exceptions, these trips were not my idea — I didn’t initiate the contact, but was asked to participate by others.
If you like hiking with others that is fine… nothing wrong with it at all. Going solo isn’t necessarily better unless one simply prefers to be alone.
I don’t have any crazy adventures to share. But I do get out quite often, because it is easy to do spur of the moment trips since there is no one I need to coordinate with, or ask the household CEO for permission to go. Plus it helps that I can hike to the top of Mt San Jacinto from my house, the north and south entrances to Joshua Tree NP are 50 miles away, 90 minutes to Anza Borrego, and about 4 hours to the Southern Sierra.
A big impediment to solo hiking can be a spouse or significant other. Before I married my first wife I had done a couple 6 month solo hikes, so she knew I liked to hike. During our first year of marriage I took her on a one-week backpacking trip in the Sierra — she hated it. After that she had no problem with me going backpacking as long as I didn’t ask her to join me; so solo was okay with her. I’ve been married to my 2nd wife for 15 years. At first she was apprehensive about my trips, but she has gotten used to them and never tries to limit me and she has no desire to try backpacking. I don’t take a cell phone on trips because there is no reception where I hike, nor do I own a PBL or similar device… mostly because they didn’t exist for most of my hiking career and I don’t like change. My wife understands cell phones don’t work because when we go camping we usually don’t have cell reception. She also doesn’t know that something like a PLB exists.
I don’t advocate that people should try solo hiking. If it is something you really, really want to do then go for it. Just make sure you know what the heck you are doing and can stay warm, dry, and safe. Hiking with others doesn’t guarantee safety and solo doesn’t necessarily entail additional risk. If you have any reservations about solo hiking, then now might not the time to try. Either way it is just walking and sleeping under the night sky whether you go it alone or with others.