Something else to consider is the new Sea to Summit Ether Light XT
https://seatosummitusa.com/collections/sleeping-mats/products/ether-light-xt-insulated-sleeping-mat
The basic pad is rated at 3.8R and is available in multiple mummy and rectangular sizes. There’s also a generously sized womens’ mummy rated at 4.2R that a lot of guys seem to be using as well. Reviews are still pretty sparse, but no-one is saying it’s sleeping cold.
I’ve had a couple of Expeds delaminate on me not long after the guarantee ran out, and I’ve also had a couple of issues with Exped valves. So it’s time to look elsewhere. Like you I just can’t live with the noise and collapsing edges of the ThermaRests, so my current shortlist is the Nemo and the StoS. The equivalent Big Agnes is well specced but is getting terrible reviews.
The Nemo looks comfy, but there sure are a lot of welds with that design. I’m beginning to wonder if 20D fabrics and conventional welding really cut it for a heavily used mat. I’m often in chilly and remote places, and failure in the field would be unpleasant.
For me, the selling point of the StoS is that they use a high-end liquid-extrusion lamination technology that’s new to sleeping pads. They claim that it virtually eliminates the risk of delamination. This requires a 30D / 40D face fabric that adds a bit of weight, but I’d happily trade off a few grams for significantly greater reliability. Of course there’s always the issue of the valve design, but that’s getting good reviews as well.
They are both big investments, so hopefully others will chip in with their experiences.