I got an email out of nowhere, and I appreciated it. I'm not in Chaff nor do I post all day, every day, in all the forums. NO idea how I ended up on this one. But it was appreciated, and I enjoyed meeting a bunch of people, even one or two I've seen in multiple forums.
I just rearranged my life after years of dealing with 500+ hikers in a large meetup group. I got really, really tired of trying to make everyone happy – you can't. The whiners, the entitled ones, the ones who think you should make the event available to absolutely everyone no matter how ridiculously impossible that is – fugheddaboutit. Ken, do whatever you like with whomever you like. Make yourself happy. No one is entitled to make you feel like shit for trying to have fun with the people you have fun with.
Point Reyes is the only place I know of where one can wilderness camp with a larger group, and that mostly because it is only marginally wilderness-y. Heaving an open invitation onto the internet for a backpacking trip and expecting that to go well – yeah, that's like expecting efficiency in government. Some things you can only do as well as you can do. Ken did great.
I'll say the same thing I said to everyone who felt entitled to tell me what THEY thought I should do for the meetup group – it sounds like someone wants to organize their own event. Why not go do that instead of pouting? You could even invite the "cool kids" (that's a laugh, the day I'm a cool kid will be the day I invent the helium-based backpack). They'd probably come. I take whatever opportunities I can get to go backpacking and camping and hiking, work schedule permitting.
Peter, I have been thinking of getting pack goats but your charcoal carrying acumen impressed me. Want to go backpacking?