Alister,
Will respond as if posted on MYOG.
I've been working on an hourglass frame using Easton tubes for the perimeter, but obviously had to have some cross tubes to keep the pack contents from sticking into my back and rendering the mesh backpanel useless.
So I looked in many hardware stores and websites for barbed nylon hose Tees used to connect plastic tube or rubber hose. They come in many sizes, but what was important was the Inner Diameter (ID) of the Tee, that would fit snugly over the tubes. (The diameter used to size the fittings is the ID not of the Tee, but of the hose or tube, so is not helpful.)
Since I'm using Easton .340 7075-T9 tent pole tube, the best fit came from a 1/2" Tee sold in Home Depot stores under the brand "WATTS," and labeled Nylon Hose Barb A-381. The tube is loose in the barb portion of the Tees, but if that is cut off, the remainder can be bored for an extremely tight fit over the tube. The nylon is flexible, but strong, which sounds like what you are looking for.
For other sizes of alloy or carbon tube, you will have to do your own hunt, but I've been able to find Tees that can be bored for just about whatever diameter tube I want to use. The key is to have a good set of quality drill bits in numerous sizes. Yet to be decided is whether to bond the tubes in the Tees, and if so, what adhesive to use. Since the nylon and the alloy are so different in composition, some bonding tests would be needed to try to find something that adheres to both the nylon and the alloy. I fear if you install pins or fine screws in the alloy, it will lead to cracks and failure, so ruled that out. The 5/8" tubing used by Jansport and others for frames can handle some drilling a tapping, but the ultra-lite materials are not as rugged.
Note that the hose fittings also come in polyethylene and other plastics, but I chose the nylon for its strength. Daryl has posted a number of times about using hose tees that fit carbon tubes, so you might want to PM him for info also. And you could always make your own Tees as Roger Caffin did – you can email him at BPL.
One question: To keep the pack away from your mesh backpanel, won't you need curved or bent crosstubes, which I haven't been able to find in carbon fiber. (There are some pages on eBay though for makers of tiny drones that use a variety of shaped carbon fiber parts.) So you might need to use alloy for the cross tubes because it can be prebent to the shape needed. Once having taken that step, it may lead to using alloy for the vertical tubes also, to achieve a shape that conforms to the back, as on the pack frames of yore. If you end up bonding alloy to alloy, JB Weld sold in WalMart is great stuff, as suggested by BPL member Dale W.
Finally, you might be tempted to try the many flexible fittings sold by the Kite sites, Goodwinds being one of the most popular. I found these fittings don't hold up very well to repeated flexing under weight, and eventually split. Also, any boring makes them even more likely to fail.
There are a number of threads in the MYOG archives about this stuff.
Good luck.