"Tarp/Bivy Pros"
That's a good summation, but it bears even more relevance given the OP's marital situation. Like many, I'm married to someone who, while she enjoys the outdoors, prefers it mainly in small doses, with a shower, hot meal(s) and bed each day.
Since I also have kids, and our family is engaged in plenty of other activities/trips, there is no way I'm able to take off for any length of time just to "do my thing". That means the (solo) trips I do go on are highly compressed 3 night/4 day, almost 24 hr affairs, where I'm literally moving all day. I also happen to exclusively hike/fish the high Sierra, where no matter how deep you are, you're not really more than 1 day (15+ miles) away from a TH.
OK, so add it up: what do I really need to bring if at most I'm only spending 3 nights and can bail at any point? Do I need a nice ground cover, or can I sleep on the rocks/grass? (I bring window shrink rap.) Same question of pad – what exactly do I need, if anything? Tarp/bivy? I bring an oversized tarp, sans bug netting, but don't put it up unless it's wet.
My TH quilt has good DWR, so I don't care if I get some dew on it. Besides, I'm out of there shortly anyway – it will have plenty of time to dry. Bug protection – jeez, I've got enough heavy duty sunscreen on to block insects by itself, but 100% DEET works pretty darn good. Oh, did I mention I'm only out for 4 days, so I can wash that stuff off when I'm done?
Same analysis with food – we cook up a storm @ home, but on the trail, I can easily get by with my own GORP, jerky and sweets for 3.5 days. (I eat a huge prepped meal before starting, and of course scarf down @ the end.)
As with anything, your gear needs to fit the particular situation. If you're young & going on a 30+ day thru hike, then you need to think longer term. Ironically, the older you get and the more responsibilities you have, you actually have the luxury of thinking in a very short time frame.