Most of the materials and jackets you are considering are widely available. Differences are small, but come down to things like face fabrics more than the insulation.
1. Sure, it’s fine. Grid fleece is common: Marmot Reactor, OR Vigor, and MH Power Grid are all good choices as well. Military surplus L2 “waffle top” is a medium-lightweight version of the same stuff — sometimes at bargain prices (but with only a half zip — a full zip allows easier heat dumping).
2. As above, there are a zillion choices and at least as many opinions. What we have all told you is the truth: puffies are mostly for static use or very cold weather. A synthetic puffy with a highly breathable face fabric is maybe acceptable in some active cases, but will never be as comfortable as fleece in the same role. Vests are even more flexible than jackets for active use (but a jacket is warmer when static). Arc’teryx tends to be high quality and high price — it doesn’t usually compete in terms of price:performance, but it’s nice stuff.
3. It’s probably OK. MB stuff is always nice; often on the small side compared to American sizes, so size up. I can’t make sense of the insulation weight (80 gsm = 1.25 osy compared to 2.5 osy for Timmermade and 2.0 osy for Torrid) but the Thermawrap’s finished weight is double the weight of the the others — that doesn’t add up (the shell isn’t THAT MUCH heavier, although it is heavier and maybe more durable). Maybe they use two layers of insulation? In any case, I don’t see the Thermawrap listed as currently available.
Note that buying exotic and expensive gear doesn’t mean that it will be perfect FOR YOU. Super light stuff may not last as long as $30 Walmart clones. There are ALWAYS tradeoffs. Often you can find 80% of the performance for 20% of the price.
It is impossible to choose the perfect jacket for you from an armchair.
Also, it is impossible to pick a perfect jacket for all conditions. Most of us have more than one.
Layering is the key to having flexible combinations that work in a wide variety of conditions. Also: zippers or other ways to dump heat.
One approach is to experiment with less expensive versions to get an idea of what you like, then upgrade later. An inexpensive grid fleece and a light synthetic vest/jacket might be a good starting point. Wear a wind or rain shell over them for colder weather. Once you get more experience with that combination, then you will know better what you want next.
EDIT: While grid fleece gets you a flexible single layer, for the price (and weight) of an R2 you can buy an AD and a windshirt. Alpha Direct and Octa (Airmesh) are the most flexible fleeces. They do the same thing as grid fleece, but they are lighter and dump heat faster when you open your windshirt. Most of the people who recommend that combination have tried grid fleece in the past.