Geoff, I’ll offer my experience for what it’s worth.
About a year ago I finished my tunnel tent prototype (1 person, 2 stakes, 2 or 3 poles, 27 sq ft; someday I’ll do a detailed writeup on the design and build to see if Ryan wants to publish it). The fabric is the RSBTR 30d sil/sil MTN nylon 6.6, which I suppose is comparable to the ExtremTextil 30d silnylon (or the same?). I don’t much mind the stretch-when-wet aspect of silnylon, especially in this design, in which I can retighten the entire tent from a single point without leaving my bed. This fabric seems fine and easy to work with. It’s been through some heavy rains with no problems. My one complaint is something you will probably love: that it’s too bright inside—it’s like a Fresnel lense, magnifying the sun (I need something with dark, dense shade).
I did also consider the 20d sil/sil nylon mentioned from ExtremTextil. I bought samples and tested seams, concerned about reports of “loose weave”. Yes, it does seem a bit loose, and stress tests with weights on a seam did show some needle holes opening up. I believe that in practice this is unlikely to be a problem, that good sealant will prevent leakage, and I think it unlikely the fabric would reach its strength limits even in a strong wind. And the fabric is crazy waterproof, as tests have shown, and it’s very opaque for its weight. However, in the end I chose the RSBTR 30d fabric because I wanted something with presumed longer durability and because the ExtremTextil 20d is so thin and soft it feels like it “has no structure” and is harder to work with (e.g., it won’t take any kind of fold).
I used a lot of bonding to build the tent, mostly for positioning but also in lieu of stitching in two critical instances. The most critical is how I bonded stair-step reinforcing patches in the high-tension cone ends of the tent—in this 2-stake design, almost all of the tension of the tent comes through these two end cones, so they must be failproof. I have not seen any delamination or separation of fabric edges here or on any of the bonded pieces of the tent. Here’s how I did it:
• For bonding in general, I first considered whether the size of bond would be appropriate to the load it might receive and the angle the force would be applied (it is possible to rip off a bonded piece in certain directions). When in doubt, sew in addition, or instead. You will have to guess and test what is an appropriate width for your bonded seams. Maybe the Elastosil makes a stronger bond than Permatex?
• I used high-quality sil/sil nylon and worked only with new, clean material. I did not do any cleaning or other surface prep.
• I used Permatex Windshield and Glass Sealant, 81730.
• I spread the sealant in thin, wide loops on one surface to be bonded, and lightly spread it out until it contacted the whole surface.
• I positioned the second surface to be bonded, then squeegeed outward from the center with a plastic putty knife, to push out excess sealant and eliminate bubbles. Wipe away excess.
• I did another round of squeegeeing all over. My goal was to leave a very thin layer of sealant—just a few layers of molecules–but not to eliminate as much as possible. It is possible to take away too much and have a poor bond.
• I weighted the whole area with flat, polished blocks of stone (I’m a stone sculptor, so I always have polished bases laying around). Glass or tile modestly weighted would serve similarly. Or books, if necessary.
I don’t feel the same as you about maybe depriving the sealant of air in this early stage. I want to get it flat and keep it flat so the layers adhere tightly. Once that part is secure, there will be ample curing time once the blocks are removed. The narrow pieces you will be using will over time allow ample air and moisture for an eventual cure no matter what you do. (Or maybe the Elasosil is different?)
The wholly-bonded tent sounds like an interesting experiment (one that does add a bit of weight) but one motivating factor you mentioned here and some earlier post you might reconsider: wanting to eliminate needle holes. If a big part of that concern is about leakage, I’ll say this: after using a home-sealed Warmlite silnylon tent for 20 years and building three silnylon tents of my own over the space of 18 years, I can confidently say that if you seal it properly once—with only one coat—you will never need to seal it again, and it will never leak. My seams have never leaked and I have never ever seen silicone sealant peeling the way we all used to see peeling with urethane. These sil fabrics and silicone sealants are so in love they just really glom on to each other. In the early days I mixed my own with stinky solvents, and have tried Seam Grip, but now the Permatex is so very superior and easy. It doesn’t smell like anything, it’s so easy to apply precisely right out of the tube with a small hole, and you can just stick a wire in the hole and the sealant will still be good months later. Sew with confidence, seal carefully once, sleep well.

ExtremTextil 20d under stress opened some needle holes


Spreading stress over 4 layers of fabric (maybe overkill?)


Two-stake tent, with three poles

With two poles