“I have not been back to the eastern high peaks in more than 10 years (it is too crowded).”
Many decades ago, our explorer scout leaders (Dads) balked at continuing trips up the NY Thruway to Canada due to the long drives; so we had to find places in the USA. So we hit just about all the areas in upstate NY except the peaks around Mt Marcy, that the Dads did not go for either. While we wanted to get back to the pretty ladies at the trailhead store, they wanted to get away from it all, and I suspect, did not embrace the high peaks due to the crowds, just as David H noted.
But wanted to visit the peaks and climb Marcy, so years later took a solo trek. Good grief, I’d never seen so many people in the mountains, and have seen nothing like it since, anywhere in the US or Canada. (But admit to bypassing Yosemite).
The cause of the problem must be the equally over populated bears who are attracted to the unusual overpopulation of people in that area. (Also, the aggressiveness of the bears could come from being surrounded by New Yorkers-hah-hah.)
So moved my trekking locales to northern Maine, doing loop trips on and off the AT. Only one bear in many years, and that was due to my stupidity with blueberry slurp inside the tent. Otherwise, not a single bear, though saw some docile moose cooling off in a nearby lake and was awakened once by some sloshing across the nearby stream that sounded like it could be a bear. T’wer it so, the food was hung high in a kevlar ursack and was not molested. There are lots of such places in the Maine mountains where trekkers and people happily occupy the turf. (But to do Katahdin, I had to get my application in on the first day of the year. Baxter Park is quite strict, and maybe that is why it was not overrun with people and bears). Here in Chocorua NH have seen a few bears running about while bushwhacking, but they want none of us humans, or my aussy either.
Please consider that since you have children along, Maine might make for a more safe and enjoyable trek. The Maine Mountain Guide is still updated regularly I think, with some good maps included. If I had to go to the high peaks in upstate NY with children along, I’d get the most impenetrable canisters around, and the adults would carry them. Better safe than sorry.
When BPL put out a magazine years ago, there was an ultra light canister in one issue that gave off an electric jolt to any would-be molester. But I’m over-tech’d with enough gadgets already. Happy trails!