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Let’s talk about the advantages of being a single female backpacker for a change….

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German Tourist BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 2:09 am

After a lot of positive feedback for this post on my blog I wanted to share it here on BPL:

Whenever you read about solo female backpackers sooner or later the discussion tends to go towards how dangerous it is out there in the woods for women on their own. The most common question I am asked when being outdoors is „Aren’t you afraid out there – as a woman?“ And almost every email I receive from women on my blog includes a question about how safe a trail or a trip is – for a woman. Or to quote one recent email from a girl: „Unfortunately it is so much more dangerous for a female to be outdoors than for a man. [….] I cannot stop thinking that I will be lying in my tent in the dark and a man will come to rape me.“

First all this talk about how dangerous it is for women to be outdoors just irritated me – but the more I hear the more it makes me plain angry. I often think that all these „words of caution“ are just a modern version of locking women in and keeping them from discovering their freedom. And unfortunately this modern brainwashing is very effective: You still see very few women alone hiking, cycling or paddling. Most either don’t go at all or only dare to go with a male partner – especially on long-distance trips.

So how much truth is in the common assumption that it is so much more dangerous for a woman than for a man in the outdoors?

I will start with my own personal experience – and in my 7 year long outdoor career I have spent almost 2,000 nights outdoors, mostly being on my own: All this time I have not had a single incident where I have been seriously threatend or even attacked by a male. There have even hardly been any moments when I have felt uneasy meeting men in the outdoors.(And these few incidents usually involved some level of intoxication on the male part….)

You might argue that one person’s experience can just be pure luck – but think about it logically. If you were a (sexual) predator: Would you go into a forest and wait in the dark and cold until (probably after days or weeks) a single female happens to pass by who is dirty and smelly? No, you would much more likely seek your victims in a populated urban area. The big advantage of camping is that usually nobody knows where I am – especially when stealth camping. And if someone would stumble across my tent coincidentally he would probably be as scared of me as I would be of him because he doesn’t know who is in that tent.

Don’t get me wrong: I do not deny that there is a risk for solo female backpackers to be assaulted – but by being outdoors instead of being in an urban area you reducing that risk instead of increasing it. Plus the risk is minimal. Personally I am much more afraid of a traffic accident when travelling to a trail head than of being raped while camping.

But the point of this post is a different one: The media, friends and family and basically every one you meet on a trail will pester a woman with what disadvantages a solo female faces outdoors – but no one talks about the advantages a single woman has.

Let’s start with the most obvious advantage which is actually all this „women are so vulnerable“ talk looked at from a different angle. Women are perceived as weak and non-aggressive which means that they don’t pose a threat. And this has the wonderful effect that whenever I need help I almost always will be helped – people don’t feel threatened by me. You don’t think this is a big advantage? Believe me – it is. Guess who gets picked up quickly when trying to hitch a ride into town to resupply? A single female or a scruffy bearded single male?

I could give an almost endless list of occassions when I had to ask for help and people reacted friendly and helpful: asking for water or directions, needing a ride, having technical bike problems, needing an extra pair of hands for portaging my kayak…….

But it is not only when you need help that being a female is a big advantage: People are generally reacting much friendlier towards a single female than towards a male: Guess who gets invited more often for dinner or given shelter in bad weather? Guess whom people offer an extra chocolate bar or invite to a family picnic? People are also much more lenient towards women than towards men – a huge advantage when you are caught trespassing or stealth camping.

I don’t want to say that men are not treated friendly or offered help but your chances are much higher if you are a female.

Your advantages of being female are not restricted to encounters with others. There are several female qualities that will help you on long-distance trips. I was made aware of this on my very first long-distance hike on the PCT. I had arrived in the US with no experience in long-distance hiking and was basically shit scared of what lay ahead of me when a well known trail angel shuttled me and several other hikers to the Southern terminus of the PCT at the Mexican border. I was whining and fretting in the car until the trail angel told me these unforgettable words: „I have been shuttling hikers to the Mexican border now for years. I can assure you that statistically you have the highest chance of making it all the way to the Canadian border because you are a single female. Why? Single females are usually the best prepared and they don’t have to prove anything to anyone.“ He turned out to be right – I made it not only to the Canadian border but eventually to the Triple Crown. After meeting hundreds of male and female long-distance hikers I also concur with his assumption. Women are usually more problem-oriented and very well prepared because they perceive themselves as weaker and want to compensate this with better preparation. And they generally lack the competitiveness that drives male hikers (especially the younger ones) to overexert themselves.

This male competitiveness is one of the biggest problems for thruhikers. You have to hike your own pace or you will sooner or later overexert yourself and end up with physical problems like stress fractures, shin splints and the like. But in predominantly male groups the fastest hiker sets the pace – and competitiveness drives the others to follow with the above mentioned consequences. Women don’t fall into that trap that easily. Being considered the weaker sex anyways they are not ashamed to ask for a break when they are tired or leave a faster group when they cannot keep up.

It took me much longer to find out another female advantage. On the rare occasions when I have hiked or cycled with men I was always confronted with the bitter truth that I could not physically keep up with men when short term extreme performance was required. Going uphill I was usually watching the cloud of dust my male partner left behind when hiking up a steep mountain whereas I was slowly creeping uphill behind him. The same goes for cycling or paddling. But then came a big surprise: On long, straight and or rather boring stretches my male partners were suddenly lagging behind me whining how boring all this is. I just put in my earphones and an audiobook and hiked on – up to 14 hours per day. I put my feet on autopilot and kept my mind busy with other things. These stretches were much more difficult for men – not for physical, but for mental reasons. They were lacking the multi-tasking abilities.

Bottom line: As a female backpacker you face certain dangers and physical problems a man would not have to deal with. But on the other hand these disadvantages are more than compensated by the above mentionend factors. Long distance outdoor activities are not more difficult or dangerous for women than they are for men. Don’t let this modern brainwashing keep you from exploring the outdoors. Be careful and use common sense – but don’t be intimidated. But most important: Always keep in mind that being a woman in the outdoors also has a lot of advantages!

Stuart R BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 6:17 am

Hear, hear!

I have a 17yo daughter and the person who is doing most to instill a fear of going out alone is…

…her mother :-(

For example, her mother insists that she carries a mobile phone at all times "to be safe". I'm sure any would-be attacker is not going to wait while she phones home for help, but what do I know, "you're not a woman".

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 6:23 am

Very interesting. Thank you for sharing this."Be careful and use common sense – but don't be intimidated" – AMEN!
Reading the post I reflected on similar experiences. I frequent areas that are not deep wilderness so I have stumbled across a few others on the fringes of society (literally + figuratively). This definitely has opened my eyes and I've adjusted accordingly. I suppose I may be more of a "(sub)urban explorer" vs. wilderness hiker; I can't really expect less. But, I mention this to point out that gender has nothing to do with this – it is the environment I frequent. I agree that women should not reflexively bite their nails and imagine every worst-case scenario every time they go hiking; esp. in areas that are in fact deeper in the wilderness (and further from urbanized areas where woman ARE assaulted more).

It's funny. Being a man I've definitely been on the "other side" of some of these experiences. The point you make about women being more approachable is spot-on. I know I have definitely surprised/uneased folks that see me stumbling through the forest looking like I may scalp the next thing that moves. I suppose that's what happens when I'm decked out in dark olive drab & black gear like Darth Vader w/a hunting license. The thought has occurred to me that if I ever do encounter someone in the woods who does need help/assistance (water, first aid, etc), I will need to be very clear in my intentions and probably even remove my hood/skullcap to assuage any fears. It's funny how culture appropriates fear based on our chromosome arrangement – women are molded to be fearful; men are molded to intimidate. And even if WE don't behave that way – guess what? Others may. And do. I've walked by mothers that shuffle their children back when they pass me. To inspire fear without intention is nothing to be proud of.
Oh – and "male competitiveness"? This is why I hike alone generally. The last thing I need when staring at leaves and feeling the breeze is some dude trying to coax my well-being into a contest.

spelt with a t BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 6:29 am

I think it's common for men to dismiss the very real risks women can face, but I also think it's endemic for culture to overstate those risks and apply them in a blanket context. These are not unrelated phenomena.

Ryan Smith BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 9:49 am

"Guess who gets picked up quickly when trying to hitch a ride into town to resupply? A single female or a scruffy bearded single male?"

Oh yeah. I've seen this first hand on the AT. Common policy is to make the guy wait back in the trees while the female sticks out her thumb. Works like a champ.

Ryan

Aaron Sorensen BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 10:03 am

For the past 10 years or so, when I come across a mean looking or growling and or barking dog, I just get down to there level and baby talk them. Come here, good boy, and so on.

Before I started doing this I had a few run ins where a dog has snapped at me and a few times have even had a little nip that drew a little blood.
I the past 10 years, nothing. the dog ether just stops seeing me as a threat and goes back to there owner, or comes up to me for some loven.

As for people, you have to treat them the exact opposite.
For a single female, no matter what age, if you think of a male as a dog who will bite, you will be much more observant and approach them in a different manner.
People can sense fear just like a dog can.
The ones that don't show this fear are much less likely to get bit.

I have met many single young hikers and most have been a little timed and fearless.
If you just don't have this in you, it may not be the best idea to be out in the middle of nowhere alone.
If you do, then everything you mention is a definite plus.

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 10:06 am

I hike regularly with my daughters, my wife, my sisters, and my girlfrieds. They WILL be reading this…Thank you for your experienced insight into an issue that the women in my life have to struggle with.

MW BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 10:19 am

All true. If you hunted up the statistics, you’d probably find its the same as Australia. I cycle solo and get asked a lot about being afraid for safety. Once I hunted the numbers. Can read my blog entry here, but short version is no surprise really: your safer out on the trail, solo, than being at home with family, friend, or someone you know.

So grab your pack and get going to be safer and healthier.

Katherine . BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 10:26 am

Let me say, I've never felt anyone **on BPL** discourage me from solo backpacking — if anything quite the opposite! Lots of general enthusiasm for solo-backpacking here. And nice to hear about other women's solo trips. So thank you BPL members!

Though I have felt that from other quarters.

My husband of course, but he's conceded that he just wants me to have more experience before I go it alone. Fair enough, I'd probably be concerned about him too if he were so inclined.

Someone on group trip suggested to me that "being a mother" i shouldn't solo backpack (which opens up a whole other discussion). I chaffed at that one, but it doesn't matter.

My dad, when seeing a photo of my tarp/bivy, expressed half admiration, half concern (more in general about backpacking, not necessarily solo). I wrote up an email of my risk assessments, and he appreciated that I've thought a lot through.

I haven't gone solo yet. Might be next summer. I do a lot of ambitious day hikes. I tend to consider the presence of others as something that, for the most part, improves my security (especially the further I get from the trailhead).

And yeah, I've been in a situation where I've needed help from others and felt like a sissy-girl. I'm sure it would have been much harder to make the right call if I had been a guy.

The larger risks in going solo are about things irrelevant to gender.

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 11:54 am

"For example, her mother insists that she carries a mobile phone at all times "to be safe". I'm sure any would-be attacker is not going to wait while she phones home for help, but what do I know, "you're not a woman".

Yea… cell's not going to help much… better to take a Glock if there is that much concern. A person that has one and knows how to use it will feel much more confident.
(though I don't think anything like that is needed where I go backpacking, maybe there are some areas where it would be a good idea)

billy

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 12:09 pm

$hit.

We almost made it past three months without a "guns" drift.

We'll, it was nice while it lasted.

Ladies, please carry on.
I'm enjoying the benefit of your perspectives.
Thanks.

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 12:21 pm

Wa?… Greg.. you don't approve of guns?

Gee everybody has 'em these days… they're now part of the 'Merican ethos… why, even the kids are takin' 'em to school these days… :(

Billy

Ben C BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 2:45 pm

I really LOVED your post. All of it. More young girls should learn this from someone.

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 3:53 pm

" better to take a Glock if there is that much concern. A person that has one and knows how to use it will feel much more confident."

Don't take your guns to hike, son; Leave your guns at home, Bill; Don't take your guns to hike…

Aw, hell, don't take my advice. Listen to a real expert:

Youtube video

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 4:36 pm

"On long, straight and or rather boring stretches my male partners were suddenly lagging behind me whining how boring all this is…They were lacking the multi-tasking abilities."

It's not just that. Generally speaking women are "built" for endurance (long distance running for example) and men for peak exertion (sprinting for example). One can train and improve either, but "out of the box" that how we are.

I recently read a story about women being integrated into the military. It was the army I think and the "instructor" (D.I. in the marines, not sure what the army calls them) commented how the fastest male at long distance running couldn't keep up with the slowest women. He said the men were always complaining about the long distance runs and the women never were.

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 4:50 pm

"Don't take your guns to hike, son; Leave your guns at home, Bill; Don't take your guns to hike…"

Tom… I doubt you're old enough to call me 'son'… and I've never owned a gun and likely never will…

oh, the assumptions we make about people if they just mention a hot button word :)

billy

Ian BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 4:59 pm

Thanks for the good read.

I'm a bit of a hypocrite. I don't have a problem traveling solo in less than ideal locations but I lose my $#!+ when I can't find my kid for an hour. I don't know how I'll feel about my son and daughter when they are old enough to go on a solo adventure, whatever that might be.

It's already been discussed here but in my experience, most of the sexual assaults I have to deal with, the victim knew the assailant. Also, much more often than not (again my experience), the crime tends to be pedophilia.

But then there was a rape/murder of an elderly woman in Clarksville, WA last week which was completely random where she didn't know the assailant prior to the event.

Cheryl Strayed had a six pack (beer not abs) Charlie get aggressive with her in the back country.

A friend of mine who was hitchhiking home from a teen dance club was beaten nearly to death and had large rocks dropped on her head by a perfect stranger. The guy didn't try to molest her. He was only interested in killing her. Thankfully he didn't succeed.

So I'm left with the challenge of giving my kids wings to fly and not imposing the anchor of my fears on them. Easier said than done when it comes to wanting to protect a loved one.

Sadly, the likely consequence of having a kid who is unable to function independently, make their own decisions, and learn from their mistakes is too great to ignore.

I'm just babbling out loud at this point. Don't mind me.

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 5:31 pm

Sounds like Billy needs a little education on the Man in Black."

hm… don't know anything about any 'man is black'…

but I've been hiding from the men in white coats… :)

billy

Lori P BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 6:07 pm

Yeah, yeah. Whatever.

Which is what I say repeatedly to people who are shocked that I solo backpack – this is California. I believe in taking precautions for *actual* risks, not ones that others imagine are there, so I don't worry about being mugged, assaulted or raped by someone on the trail. That is far more likely to happen in the city I live in where home invasions do happen sometimes, people get mugged or jumped on the street at night, and if I were to go through the wrong neighborhood at the wrong time I might catch a stray bullet wandering into some gang activity. These are real dangers – driving around town.

In the wilderness I worry about hypothermia, dehydration, mild elevation symptoms, or getting hurt in a fall. And I don't worry about those much at all. I'm never more careful than when hiking alone. I do not worry about bears, or any other animal. I respect them and keep my distance.

If I went to Alaska, or Wyoming, or hiked the AT – there are different risks there, and I'd think about them and take appropriate (in my mind) steps to decrease the risk. The AT has a lot of roads nearby in many sections so the risks approach the same as in the front country – it's the only trail I can think of that has a crime rate including a few murders. Alaska has some predators that would make me avoid solo hiking altogether and take bear spray.

But, no, no worries here in my home state where I backpack all the time. No guns, no reason for them. No big knife, no big fears, no big deal, just – NO. Women should not cave in to the pressures society puts on us to be afraid all the time. We are at no more risk than the guys are in the wilderness. Perhaps less, since snakebites happen more often to 20-something males than any other demographic…

The most paranoid people I meet are women. The more backpacking I do, the less I let that paranoia bother me. I get it. You're scared – you've been trained to be scared from an early age, of all kinds of dangers. Sometimes I'm scared – in the city. But that's not really where I belong anyways….

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 6:14 pm

Great post Lori. And it goes beyond women being taught to be afraid all of the time – but much of society being taught to be afraid of the scary outdoors.

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 6:31 pm

"For the past 10 years or so, when I come across a mean looking or growling and or barking dog, I just get down to there level and baby talk them. Come here, good boy, and so on."

Works like a charm. Until you come across that 100 pound pit bull with an attitude and he proceeds to rip your face off.

PostedNov 20, 2014 at 6:36 pm

Good points by G.T. and Lori. My spouse is one of those "tread where Angels fear to tread" super independent, strong personality, and in most ways, pretty fearless type of personalities.

Anyways, we hiked the Camino in Spain together some years back, but got separated for awhile (long story). During the time when we were separated, she had been kind of moving in and out of different organically forming and reforming groups, but also spent plenty of time relatively alone too.

At one point during one of her alone periods, she decided to take a Siesta, and found a grove of trees off the path, and laid down to take a nap. As she was falling asleep, she briefly saw a little red car in the background.

When she was waking up, a Spanish man was about 20 or so yards away from her. At first, she thought he might be taking a pee, turns out it was a lot more than that, and he started to talk to her in Spanish as he was doing it. She immediately got up and left, and was pretty shaken by the whole experience and grateful that nothing more happened. In one sense, i wish i had been there to help her if need be, and in another i was glad i wasn't as i would have been solely tempted to beat the man with his own sausage.

While this could happen to a man as well, speaking on averages, i doubt it would happen near as much.

So, i do think women need or should be more cautious in some ways, but at the same time, i don't think letting fear limit/control you is a good thing either. There are risks involved in many aspects of daily living for both men and women, such is life.

Sometimes i wonder why there aren't more active female posters here at BPL? The regulars especially are heavily tipped to the male side. I feel like we could benefit from more active and vocal female voices here. Don't make me dress up as Justina and pretend add some feminine energy… (it's just not a pretty sight)

M B BPL Member
PostedNov 20, 2014 at 6:52 pm

While exceedingly rare, women do get attacked on trails. Like other crime, its often not far from a trailhead. Google "female hiker rape". That is not to say it is any more common than the at-large population, it probably is less

The innate fear, is that someone is alone, without any hope of assisstance should such thing occur. Of course, that is also true for other possibly more life threatening circumstances.

The bottom line is, you cannot let fear of bad things keep you from doing something. The most dangerous thing we all do, aside from eating poorly, or lack of exvercise, is get in a car. We don't give either a second thought. If it takes having a "protection device" for someone to feel comfortable, that is OK too. These aren't the people who create problems with them.

The way you quit worrying about a risk, is to first admit it and accept it as a reality.

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