Thanks Christopher- both products look nice, agree the fabric is probably more in line with what I would be seeking.
For now-
I do like the "hinge" type feature you mentioned on the Aarn belts, I have found something similar to work simply by sewing one seam down the center of a 4" belt so that the belt "breaks" at the midpoint and wraps the hips. I think this style is very effective for curvy folks, women in particular.
Unfortunately- all these styles require either a dual webbing buckle (one on top, one on bottom) or the style as shown on the aarn/osprey and others. I am trying to keep it to just one 3/4" connection. Both for weight/simplicity and to use the strap for headlamp attachment for night hiking.
I had some 3d mesh around still, I am going to try that in combination with a triangle wing style hipbelt (level on the bottom, 6" tall tapered to 2" and about 10" long) to see if I can get better results with that one. That shape generally allows you to get a good cinch below the hip bone, but the taper allows a little wrapping of the belt around the top of the butt/hips.
I'm thinking a small rectangle of 300d or 3d mesh at the back panel area might help too but going to try without it.
I've been playing with some pretty radical pack designs lately, and the various changes keep having unforeseen results in other components. Hopefully I can dial in some kind of combination of body/belt/shoulders that is close and then dial in from there.
I have found two things-
If you raise or taper the bottom of the pack, that does help with a little of the body material sag and transfer weight better. Right now I have a 1" height difference I'm playing with. (The outside or front is 1" shorter than the backpanel piece- the sides taper to match)
The other thing that helps is a round bottom- I have been starting this at the top of the hipbelt and doing a radius in the side panels to match the depth of the pack. The "butt bumper" this creates lets the pack snug into your lumbar area a bit but still get good purchase on your ass. I have a big butt, I don't think this would work well on most folks with more athletic body types.