To be honest if you are looking at buying off the shelf then you really need to be trolling through the conversations on BPL even looking into the SUL link and just search and read. Then research items on manufacturers sites and compare. Then come back and read the reviews on said items
If you want to go even lighter then usually it takes adopting a new approach and field testing to see if said ideas work for you or not. This means altering some preconceived ideas/expectations of being out there in the wilderness and facing your fears regarding some of 'must have' items that usually aid in creature comfort. Having said that some of the really light UL gear is home made (some simple some not so).
Part of the love for this camping thing for me is finding and testing out new ideas and gear!!!!!!!!!!!!