William,
You make some valid points.
Each of us needs to approach backpacking in a way that makes sense to each of us, and in a way that is enjoyable.
When I backpack, I like to minimize the gear as it can get in the way of the wilderness experience for me. To me, gear can be a barrier to learning of the wilderness world around us.
This works for me, and others may disagree — that is okay; nobody is right or wrong.
Sometimes I take the same gear as my last trip, even though the trip is different and I could tweak my gear a little bit. Just too much hassle and my pack is packed, except for any down I took out.
When I started backpacking there was no Internet, no backpacking magazines, one book, and few backpacking-centric stores. I bought gear at Sears, Thrifty Drug Store, Army/Navy Surplus, and sometimes mail order. That was it. So I, like many of my contemporaries, just went out with what I had with little thought of upgrading gear. When I found something was less than satisfactory I would have to figure it out on my own for the most part. I learned a lot that way. Plus I didn't have much money, so gear was pretty low on my list of priorities — as it still is today.
What is interesting to me, is that my son, Joe, who is in his mid twenties and enjoys backpacking, just goes with what he has too. His kit probably weighs 3 times as much as mine, but he isn't gear focused. And I don't try to convert him to the UL religion.
I write my blog mostly for my kids, so they know what I am up to. There are plenty of trip reports in it, far more than gear reviews. Also, a lot stuff about camping too… my focus is on things outdoors, not just backpacking.
Joe knows that I could give him the latest and great backpacking gear for Xmas or his birthday, but he doesn't place a high priority on it. Guess the acorn doesn't fall far from the tree :)
He is outdoors almost every day of the year, working as a biologist to protect the Desert Tortoise and other endangered species. Hiking and backpacking are just what he does, irrespective of the gear. I like that.
And as we always say here, HYOH!