“The vital point I think is that we make dang sure the poles are together before using.”
While that is completely sound advice, (and likely self-assumed for many of us on this list) I suspect that this advise is not adequately communicated to the average tent purchaser at the average outdoor retailer. Having worked for many years (and subsequently set up many, many tents) at REI, I was always very comfortable working with Easton poles, and vary rarely needed to replace poles for customers (they would occasionally bring in the "bent" pole section to replace, but I never saw the poles tear). Easton pole sections would easily snap together shut, and could typically be pushed or pulled through a sleeve with relative ease.
In my personal experience with DAC poles over the past several years (as a replacement set on a Moss Big Dipper), I have appreciated their lightness, but have found them to be very “delicate” to work with, compared to working with Easton poles. And now, since having “torn” two DAC pole sections over the past year, I am even more concerned about their overall durability. Now part of the problem lies in the fact that I have a sleeved tent, which requires numerous intersections to be crossed, and I was unaware that a couple of my DAC poles (with noticeable shock cord slack) would actually pose a higher risk of breaking, due in-part to the higher risk of the poles becoming unseated as they are pushed through the sleeves (pulling them through doesn't work whatsoever).
As far as high-end tent makers are concerned, I am certain they all have their reasons why they use what they use (cost/availability/longevity/customer service, etc.), but I am certain that any “specs” on pole strength are formulated based on proper pole assembly, and nothing more. There is always pressure to make camping gear lighter, but the balance between lightness and durability should never leave the forefront of attention. And for the most part, DAC seems established enough with tent makers that they likely have a good track record.
But because it happened to me personally, I’m not sure that I actually “trust” the DAC poles on my heavy duty tent anymore. This issue of DAC poles failing reminds me of zippers failure: Is it my kid’s fault that they didn't hold their jacket in a specific way to keep the zipper teeth from tearing apart? Or should the jacket have been designed with a more durable/useable zipper installed? It’s hard to say what the right answer is, but to me, it's still well within the definition of "normal wear and tear".