Putting the vapor barrier between the house and insulation doesn't work? So like, ceiling -> vapor barrier -> insulation -> roof.
I think maybe a good analogy might be the air inside a car in winter. Turn on the heat and sit in your car for a while, then get out, close the doors/windows and let it sit outside in sub-freezing temps. As the air inside cools, moisture that your body and breath introduced to the car will condense and you end up with frost on the inside of the windows.
Next, "reset" it by letting your car air out. Close the windows and let it sit in sub-freezing temps. Now there is no frost on the inside of the windows and the air inside the car is as cold as the air outside.
Go out, turn the car on, blast the heat, but don't sit inside it. After a while, turn the car off and wait for the air to cool down again. Theoretically, there should be no frost on the windows because you didn't introduce more moisture into the system – all you did was heat and cool the air.
I could be wrong about this, I have no idea, I'm just speculating. I'm pretty sure there's a big BPL article somewhere about the science behind condensation but I've been too lazy to read it thus far.