Most anti-microbial soap uses triclosan or triclocarban but based off the hand washing patterns of American's, the active ingredients are not on your skin long enough to be effective. The only proven effective use of TCS and TCC is in toothpaste. So basically you're paying for a chemical which doesn't even work. On top of that TCC has a half-life in aerobic soil environments of several months (80 to over 200 days depending on the literature). So as a whole you should avoid anti-microbial soaps from a LNT perspective (this doesn't even include potential carcinogenic characteristics…).
So that's why we use alcohol hand sanitizers. Of course they do dry out your skin which can be miserable when your hands are chapped and start to bleed. Particularly of issue, I guess, above treeline and in my deserts.
So yeah, a small dab of standard soap like dr. bronners seems to go a long way. I usually use a mouthful to wet and another to rinse so my water usage is minimal.
For disinfecting, UV rays scramble microbe dna so air drying your hands and leaving them exposed to the Sun probably works pretty darn effectively. The reason we use soap is to remove the dirt which protects the microbes from the UV rays.
Alcohol vapors, not the liquid, catch flame. So using gel slows down the vaporization a bit which depending on your use may be a benefit or a hindrance…but probably not noticeable from standard alcohol.