I tried all the various insulated air mattress's and found the exped down air mat and the Kookabay down air mat to work very well. Due to the comfort, I use mine year round. The Exped is a bit heavier but they are bomber with care. The Kookabay is lighter, thicker, packs down smaller, and is warmer for the same length and width. Stephenson's also makes a similar down mat to the Kookabay. I haven't seen or used one, but many swear by them.
Both Kookabay and Stephenson's have more sizes to choose from which is a plus for many. I had both the 48" and the 72" exped 7 (20" wide), and now use a Kookabay 24" x 60" which is perfect for my needs.
A down air mattress requires a bit more "fiddling" with to inflate and deflate, but it's not bad once you get the hang of it.
I am assuming that you like the comfort of an air mattress. The only other pad I found adequate for warm down to 20f or so, was a Thermarest Prolite 4. If you are a side sleeper you may find that it doesn't cushion quite enough.
Tent wise, my recommendation would be to choose a single wall that can be completely buttoned up or a double wall with solid inner tent and avoid exposed mesh. For winter I use a BD Firstlight for solo and a Bibler Ahwahnee for two. I used the Scarp and the Atko, both great tents, and the Hubba HP versions are nice as well.