For some reason, cyclists will be uber-obsessive over bike weights and then not so picky with the clothes on their back.
competitivecyclist.com is a great website for checking out gear you might be considering. I just glanced around a bit and didn't see many weights listed for clothing items, but they are extremely good about listing component weights. They are also very knowledgeable. I would call them if you have questions, they'd probably be able to provide some more fabric information, and they will definitely weigh specific items for you if you ask.
I would also not be so quick to dismiss the durability of some of these items. I don't have much castelli stuff, but I've got a few pieces of nice assos and giordana kit. The giordana stuff in particular, with carbon, is extremely durable. I took a tumble and slid across some asphalt doing about 25mph. My shorts were structurally undamaged, I was amazed. The fabric pilled a bit, and that was the only noticeable damage (after washing away the blood). The jersey popped a stitch in the shoulder, but still, almost unharmed.