I think you'll have to play around a little bit to find the best length for you. For myself, I found my fully lengthened pole to be best (140 iirc)- if the 110 isn't long enough, simply carry a short pole jack- the weight is small (you can even find them in carbon fiber)
I like to have the cord already attached w/ room for adjustment, again probably something you'll have to play with. Setting up my tarp multiple times in my yard was absolutely necessary imo to insure that everything worked well and to have the confidence that I could get a good pitch in the backcountry.
I carry 5 lightweight shepherd stakes and two beefier stakes that are used on the main guys.