My hubby and I are trying to get started in Backpacking this summer, and could use some help before we buy since we don't have the money (or pack weight) to afford a mistake. We both have back issues, his due to car accidents mine are from a chronic compacted spine issue from years of horsework and jumping so we are really intent on going as lightweight as our wallets can afford. My husband works at REI so some of our choices are out of the necessity of getting the discounts than favorite choices, he also hasn't chosen a pack yet. Any suggestions on what would fit a 6' tall 280 lb man would be great.
We are looking at mostly N. GA as well as S. Carolina, Fl, and Alabama. We'd like to try some section hiking the AT as well as thru-hiking some of the shorter local trails. (BentonM, Foothills ect.) For now sticking to 3 season,to start.
Husband's Pack
REI Half Dome 2 and ft print-5lb 8oz
Camping Quilt (homemade)-1lb 8oz
REI Lite-Core 1.5 Pad-1lb 11oz
Stuff Sacks(homemade)unknown weight yet
Compression Sacks(homemade)unknown wt
Hydration Res-6.3oz -got it
Brunton Classic 9020G Compass-1.6oz
Blk Diamond Cosmo Headlamp-2.8oz -got it
Batteries + 3 extras-2oz
Buck Scholar Knife-1.3oz
Light My Fire Flint and Steel-1oz
Small Personal First Aid Kit-1oz
Toilet Paper-1.5oz
Sanitary Trowel-2oz
Whistle-.5oz
Outdoor Products Poncho-9oz
I know the headlamp could be reduced but it is my husband's guilty pleasure item (I know, weird item.) The first aid is just some extra band-aids and things just in case we get split up as is the flint and steel.
My pack
Deuter Futura Pro 34SL Pack-3lb 12oz
Emergency Tarp and 4 Stakes-13oz
Camping Quilt (homemade)-1lb 8oz
REI Trekker 1 Self-I Pad Kids-1lb 3oz
Stuff Sacks(homemade)unknown weight yet
Compression Sacks(homemade)unknown wt
Soto Micro Regulator Stove-2.6oz
GSI Pinnacle Solo Cookset-10.7oz got it
GSI Microbitesx2-1.6oz
Katadyn Hiker PRO Water Filter-11oz
Hydration Resivour-4.6oz
4L Platypus-3oz (My Hub drinks alot of water)
Buck Scholar Knife-1.3oz
Light My Fire Flint and Steel-1oz
Whistle-.5oz
First Aid Kit-11.5oz
Outdoor Products Packfrm Poncho-9oz
Duct tape
Rope
Due to our bad backs we have to have self-inflation pads but thanks to my mom's insistence on me learning how to sew I can make quite a few things instead of buying. Anything else anyone can think of that I can make is welcome. Also I'd like some advice on what we really need to buy as far as clothes. We both have
one pair of pants (mine are convertible)
Water Wicking Shirt (short, Hub has 2)
sock liners and socks
wide brimmed hat
rain jacket
WW long john pants
and fleece lined snow pants that can be used as rain pants
light hiking shoes
Do we really need two of everything if we're only going out for 2-3 days if we've got fresh undies for every day? I mean it's not a fashion show right?
I really am not sure what size pack to get for us. We don't want to get anything too big because we really don't have the money to waste. Also we will be most likely to buy at REI unless you know of the perfect packs for the least cost ever. I personally LOVE Deuter and Kelty Packs and I prefer top loading packs with sleeping bag compartments but I'm not tied to it if it doesn't work in field.
I'm really second guessing my choices and am worried that I'm forgetting something immensely important or adding something that horribly unnecessary. Any advice or suggestions would be great!
Edit btw My pack total is looking at about 13-15lbs Base Weight and His is 15-18lb Base Weight.

