Jack,
Niwak is wax based. The others you mentioned are fluorocarbons. Silicone DWR will have silicone prominently displayed on the container. Wax is the least durable, then silicone, then fluorocarbons. Fluorcarbons have the added benefit of repelling both oils and water.
A wash in DWR is ideally suited for wind shirts and hard shells without fabric liners. A tricot liner (transparent to the naked eye) is OK to use wash-in DWR with.
The Patagonia Houdini is an Epic process and only needs to be washed and dried to replenish its DWR as is the case with other Epic process products.
Deluge (fluoropolymer base)
Granger's (fluoropolymer base)
ReviveX (fluoropolymer base)
Scotchguard (fluoropolymer base)
Tectron (fluoropolymer base)
Kiwi Camp Dry (silicone base)
Nikwax (patented wax-elastomer base)