Keep in mind that packs fit different people, even when they're of similar build, differently–just because a pack doesn't fit one person doesn't mean it won't fit another. I'd also be somewhat suspect of being fitted at REI–I regularly see people who have been "fitted" there, say in a large when they clearly fit a small. Not always, but use caution… not everyone fits packs well.
@David, we don't disagree on fundamentals. A load further from the back will indeed shift center of gravity. My point is that the distance from the users back of an Exos as compared to, say, a Vapor Trail is actually about the same–just that one has air space while another has the space filled with foam. I've worn both and can attest to this. YMMV. Whatever fits someone the best and works for them the best is the way to go. But I can fold a Vapor Trail in half lengthwise, in thirds if I wanted to. That's not much support. By comparison, a framed pack won't let you do that. I've heard of people carrying loads up to 45 pounds in frameless packs like the VT, or GoLite's Pinnacle, but if we're objective and properly fitted into a framed pack I've never seen an instance where the frameless is more comfortable. At lighter loads it won't matter as much, naturally.
Edit: Incidentally, the Exos might be a horrible pack for the OP. I'm just suggesting that he (and we all) keep an open mind on pack options. Different people have different requirements and expectations of pack fit and performance, even within the lightweight/UL community.