I realize that there is going to be personal variability in this question, but is there any situation where one can have a sleeping pad with *too* high an R-value? I have 2 pads with an R-value of 2.5, and one with 4.2. I have been having some problems with starting out the night too cool, but then ending up sweating, then getting chilled again. Night-time temps on my various attempts have been between 40-60 F. Some of the tests I was car camping and not exercising heavily prior to bedtime, so calories weren't really an issue. I use an Enlightened Equipment down quilt, rated to 30 degrees, with some overstuff.
I was very comfortable generally with my Neoair customized wide pad, but changing tents caused me to want to have a narrower pad–my boyfriend was half joking, half not about getting crowded in our new Zpacks Duplex. However, I did sometimes feel that R 2.5 wasn't quite enough. I have tried a Sea to Summit Comfort Light Insulated pad at 4.2, but not very comfortable padding, and a Sea to Summit Comfort Plus with 2.5 rating, better padding, but had some issues with warmth. I am trying not to have to carry the Sea to Summit Comfort Plus Insulated–23.5 ounces of weight, compared with 16 ounces for my Neoair, 21 ounces for the Comfort Plus , or 20.5 for the Comfort Light Insulated. The new S2S pads do not have the same depth of cush as the Neoair, for sure. The double-level pads definitely feel better–the single layer Comfort Light Insulated, I felt like I could get pressure points especially when laying on my side. I do really like the fast deflate valve, and the ability to customize the pressure. If I could have the Sea to Summit valve set-up on my Neoair wide rectangular, I think I'd be in perfect heaven as long as it wasn't colder than 40 F or so.
Part of the issue may have been that my quilt needs to be washed–I'm sending it off to Rainy Pass Repairs tomorrow for cleaning, so that may solve some of my issues. I've also ordered the straps from Enlightened Equipment for securing my quilt to the pad, as some of my waking up at night has been from trying to keep the quilt around me, on any of the pads. Having the wider pad I think helps some, as there is less chance of cold air coming in around the edges–my partner may just have to suck it up and deal with the wider pad (and the Neoair is the lightest weight option, and the most depth of cushion).
There are so many variables, I can't tell what pad may work best. But, would there be a penalty for an higher R-value?

