Ryan started his piece with this:
I have a lesser need to “feel” like I “need” to hike solo today than yesterday because the depth of my experience as a solo traveler will be known only to me: it is difficult (at best) to convey the magic of my experience to somebody who wasn’t there, and that creates a relational black hole that I’ve found to be spiritually cumbersome as I get older.
I know this because I’ve found it easy to write about my solo trips, or share photos from them, but I’ve found it hard to convey the depth of that experience to others. Moreover, I’m always a little bit dismayed by their reaction (or lack of) to my sharing (“Oh, that sounded like a nice trip.”) My response: “Huh. I guess you had to be there.”
I have the same experience. Non-hikers ask me two questions:
1. Did you see any animals?
2. How far did you hike?
Other hikers usually want to know (if they are interested): how far did I hike, how much did my stuff weigh, or how did a certain piece of gear work. Now one ever asks about the "depth of my experience."
I have found that most hikers who have traveled with my get a different experience than me. Probably because we are all individuals.
I do post trip reports on my blog, but not to elicit feedback; actually I have blocked comments and emails on the website, so it is next to impossible to communicate back to me. I like it that way.
So I hike for my own selfish reasons. I don't ask others come with me. But if someone asks to go hiking with me, then I am happy to take them.