Hi Bradford, i may be partially incorrect, but i think the feel of polyester vs nylon has a lot to do with a combo of weave, size of the fibers (the smaller the fibers, no matter what kind of material, the softer it will feel), and texture/shape of fibers. Otherwise, there is no inherent superiority of polyester vs nylon here, just that nylon has gotten into a rut being mostly made into supplex and ripstop type nylons. It's less commonly used for knits.
I wanted to like the Ex Officio boxers, but the ones i bought and the ones i tested in the store recently do not wick well at all. If you drop water on the surface of the inside, the water just beads up and stays beaded up. They could very easily modify this fabric to be more wicking. Brushing the inside of the fabric for example, would make it more wicking and softer to the feel.
I really like the OR Echo series, but i question how truly permanent the polygiene treatment is–if you read between the lines in their literature, they mention a hundred washes which is impressively durable but not necessarily permanent. I don't care about looks much at all in a social sense, and i would wear pretty much anything if it was pragmatic to do so, but i do care about stink because in my mind it signifies a build up of potentially pathogenic organisms. Not as big a deal with shirts, but more so underwear or anything near one's crotch.
Some honorable mentions for stuff that i have found which does feel more comfortable in hot, humid weather and which has decent to good stink control: Already mentioned the OR Echo line; a thin, breathable camp type shirt made out of slight majority of nylon to tencel, a thin, breathable dress shirt made out of 65% polyester and 35% linen, and the Kuhl Wanderer all wicking nylon button up shirt which isn't as breathable as the previously mentioned or the UA Iso-Chill, but is good for buggier conditions and wicks decently (not excellently) and is textured so feels good against the skin.
Btw, one of the things that UA claims for the ISO-Chill is that it feels cooler to the touch. Surprisingly, there does seem to be some truth to this. It's not a dramatic difference, like say between feeling wood and some kind of metal, but it's enough to notice. So apparently it is conducting heat away more efficiently than typical fabrics. I suspect they are using flatter/wider/thinner yarns that are both trapping less air and providing wider surface area of material that is more conductive than say rounder, thicker yarns?
I have highish hopes for the UA shirt, but i'm always looking for other good stuff in this area.