- Nov 12, 2019 at 2:54 pm #3618317
A conversation with my eldest kid, via text the other day:
Him: “I’ve been walking every day for the last two weeks. Not to get places, but just to walk.”
Me: “Solvitur ambulando: it is solved by walking. Walking has always helped me think.”
Him: “Yeah, I totally understand why you used to walk every night now.”
Me: “So I’ve gotten smarter since you’ve left for college?”
Him: “Ha, yeah you have. I miss you.”
Me: “Well then we’ll walk together when you’re home.”
Him: “I’d like that.”
Good moments in walking and parenting.Nov 12, 2019 at 3:21 pm #3618319
What a nice story to start my day with. Good parenting, good kid, good practice. Thanks for sharing.Nov 12, 2019 at 3:44 pm #3618320
I know walking is nothing new to people here, but I’ve really become hooked on it over the last ~5 years. I still run and cycle, but walking has formed the most consistent foundation; I don’t feel right if I haven’t walked for at least 30 minutes, preferably an hour. Not so much physically, but mentally. Even if I ran or cycled for a harder cardio workout, I still don’t feel complete if I don’t walk that evening. I’m very happy my son is seeing this, I think it’s an important way of being.
…and it certainly feels good as a parent when they admit to actually having learned something from you… ; )Nov 12, 2019 at 4:00 pm #3618325
I could not agree more. My walking is a bit different…it’s at work, checking my whole area twice a day, starting at 6, to do a “safety” check which includes broken glass, hanging branches etc. Not the same as just walking but it still allows my mind to be moved by my step. I usually walk between 5 and 10 miles a day so that’s something.
yeah, parenting can hurt because we can’t fix everything but it is also the most rewarding and wonderful thing I have ever experienced. I feel very lucky with my sweet pea, she keeps amazing me with her emotional wisdom and her kindness and her depth. Her smile and laughter are enough to make the world good for me.
Sorry about the gushy reply…I can tell you have a special relationship with your children and when they go their way it develops into something different but beautiful as well.Nov 12, 2019 at 4:02 pm #3618326
Nick GatelBPL Member
@ngatelLocale: Southern California
My dad walked a minimum of 1 hour almost everyday of his life. For over 30 years at his job he skipped lunch and walked instead.
As a teen I was convinced he wasn’t very smart and was totally inflexible in his worldview. When I was in my early 20s, after a period of not talking to each other, we had dinner one night and I was amazed how much wisdom he had gained in just a few years.
Enjoy your conversation and walks.Nov 12, 2019 at 4:15 pm #3618335
“…it still allows my mind to be moved by my step.”
I like that.Nov 12, 2019 at 5:00 pm #3618343
@bookLocale: Northern California
I just got back from a retreat at Redwoods Monastery near the coast in Northern Ca. Very remote, very beautiful. Anyway there’s an hour meditation offered that’s broken into two sessions with a five minute silent walk around the floor of the Church. It’s that very slow walk that Thich Nat Hahn and others recommend. I found out I can’t really do it! I have one flat foot and one leg that’s shorter than another which throws off my balance when I weight my left leg for a slow slow step forward with my right. This is why I sucked at skate skiing on Nordic skis. So I silently laughed while I watched the sisters and guests glide over the floor as I ka-lumped along until I gave up to avoid my thuds distracting everyone.
But I walk every day as well and absolutely need to, especially at night before bed if I haven’t done a hike during the day. Or even if I have. It’s a good intro to night meditation. And no I walk very evenly and smoothly in real time.
by the way the main Church building at the monastery if fabulous: high ceilings and one entire ‘wall’ of glass that looks out onto redwoods and nature; no chairs but only two long parallel low benches for sitting; a small simple table for the altar. Only one (two?)small icons. So mostly open and spacious with no busy decoration.Nov 12, 2019 at 5:05 pm #3618345
Jerry AdamsBPL Member
@retiredjerryLocale: Oregon and Washington
Nice story Craig.
My folks used to walk. I thought it was just to get away from us. Something meditative about it.Nov 12, 2019 at 6:14 pm #3618358
Sounds interesting Jeffrey.
I’ve thought a lot about doing a retreat somewhere. The Mount Baldy Zen Center is not far from me, nor is Thich Nhat Hanh’s Deer Park Monastery….but this is the purpose backpacking serves for me. And as soon as money is involved, whether this is right or wrong of me, I get squeamish.
I was out solo and silent for a day and a half this weekend again. I’m generally not looking for the community experience in regards to spirituality, but the quiet and calm of isolation instead. I think being around other people for meditation, etc. would freak me out a bit out of the fear of not doing something “right”, when “right” is something I don’t much believe in anyway. I stayed at a Zen monastery in Japan and while I really enjoyed the quiet and the pace, there were too many people involved for my taste. To each their own, obviously. I suspect I’m missing out on some aspects of spirituality by not being involved in a community but so it goes.
I’m planning on doing a ~12 day solo in the Sierra this summer. I’ve been out for longish solos like hiking the JMT, but this one will be different as I plan on settling in to a single location for ~10 days or so. I don’t want to be distracted by doing miles and getting places so I can really focus on just “being” for an extended period.Nov 12, 2019 at 9:47 pm #3618384
Daryl and DarylBPL Member
@lyrad1Locale: Pacific Northwest, USA, Earth
I’ve also used walking to address grief and fear at various times. I just keep walking until I feel better.Nov 13, 2019 at 1:12 am #3618406
@bookLocale: Northern California
I ended up thinking of my Sierra solo hikes as being retreats. It really doesn’t get better than that, in a way. And as on any retreat, the experience was unpredictable.
On my recent retreat, there were a total of 13 people, counting the sisters who live at the monastery and the guests. It was a silent retreat, but of course that’s not absolute. During the course of the day and night there were various services offered but none were required and there were mostly hours between them for people to do whatever they wanted. The grounds are huge so everyone was pretty much off on their own, drawing or writing or playing music (me) or reading or meditating. Or walking! That was me too.
This was a much less arduous retreat than my backpacking retreats. And a bit more structured, which I like. Gathering with the community for meals and chanting is a way to keep focus and not simply indulge myself in my own agenda. One chants with others for the good of the community as well as one’s own good. The obligation to others in love is enacted in communal services. This is the advantage of communal retreats, perhaps. It’s not just for me alone, like my solo backpacking trips.
sorry to always be so religious sounding! How ’bout them 49ers!Nov 13, 2019 at 2:26 am #3618422
No, I appreciate it, don’t be sorry for going there. I can understand the communal aspect, how one could get a little lost on the path alone, so to speak, or perhaps a bit self-indulgent.
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